Most kids are basic. Trend followers who buy what everyone else is buying, watch what everyone else is watching, and look at what all the popular people are posting. Same with a lot of adults, obviously. It’s natural to have tastes that are similar to your peers and to want to fit in. But should we support kids’ urge to simply be consumers of culture rather than creators of culture?
Instead of challenging them to make or do cool things, we often just agree to take them to cool locations so that they can take endless pics of themselves. Which will lead to what, exactly?
Creating worthwhile things and leading others forces kids to think. And encouraging them to do this forces us to think. Because in order to lure them out of their culture-consuming zombie state, we gotta be really clever. We gotta inspire and motivate them.
Or maybe we don’t?!
Maybe we just have to ban screen time for an hour or two and let them get bored. Give them drawing supplies. A musical instrument. A cookbook. Or even a little creative assignment.
“Invent a new recipe.”
“Create a vision board.”
“Write a 2-page screenplay and shoot it with your phone.”
“Compose some music on GarageBand.”
“Draw your dream bedroom.”
“Come up with 2 minutes of standup comedy material.”
“Think of a problem lots of people deal with and come up with a solution.”
“Think of a business you’d like to start.”
“Think of a change you’d like to see happen and how to get people on board.”
I have often mindlessly indulged kids. Either because I’m a people-pleaser and don’t want to deal with pushback, or because I relate to their desire for status (thus, IG posts that telegraph “My life is dope and I do dope shit”). But starting now, I am going to challenge myself to challenge kids more. They are worth the effort.
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I should have had you home school my kids! Riley is driven to be creative so, though she is addicted to the “gram”, she also creates. Conor however…I’m still trying to find his creative outlet. I know it’s in there.
In thinking further about it, no one encouraged me to draw. I just did it and was obsessed with it. So maybe kids who are not creative in the traditional sense (painters, writers, etc.) have a different kind of creativity that, yes, needs to be discovered. Seth Godin is always saying kids today don’t need what school used to teach (which was how to be obedient, so that they would be suitable for factory work), instead they need to learn how to “solve interesting problems.” Maybe Conor is a “solves interesting problems” kind of guy?!
A vision board! I love that. Why didn’t I think of that? Thank goodness you did. Because kid A + kid B are going to make vision boards this weekend!
It’d be so interesting to see the vision boards they create! I love that you’re going to get them to do it!
Dang it! When are you rescheduling the trip here?!?!??!
Eager to!! But y’all’s weather concerns me… I’m a wimp!